Not every bond is special we make those special by giving immerse efforts and time.We fight,we disrespect,we get traumatised but all comes naturally because there is an urge to save the connection. We cross lot of special person’s in life few teaches lessons,few hurt us to the core, few are just for pleasure but all are special bonds even for a shorter time which leaves good foot prints of impactful memories for a longer time,things we need to learn from such bonds is never loose hope just because of a bad experience from a wrong connection, or wasteful efforts always hope for the best and look for a positive perspective in every connection moving forward. With time,bond with every human being turns into an ATTACHMENT post which it becomes very important to identify the intensity if other side is also having the same kind of passion if not try to communicate which is the only key to boost the bond. Identifying Secure Attachment Style is necessary for fulfilling connections.We are encouraged to not attach ourselves to anyone or anything in our lives,because nothing in life is permanent it is all “illusion”.Everything in our life is impermanent and an illusion,expect who we truly are in our heart.Holding on to things too tightly cause us suffering.

We are confusing love and attachment and are assuming that everything is permanent.Enjoy the people and possessions,but keep in mind that some day they may be not there.So will be able to love and cherish the things and people in our life without causing yourself to suffer.Attachment is not passionate.It is subdued and seems to ever present,such as anxiety that your are going to lose your person,or the fear that they will leave you.Love can be freeing but attachment is possessive.With attachment,you cannot be sure of the other persons feeling.You get worried,anxious and jealous easily.Attachment is selfish ,it’s all about you .We want someone to be there for us,cater our needs and wants.However we do not care enough about them to see how they are doing or weather their needs are satisfied.Attachment tends us to make powerless or helpless mean that you feel the need to have them with you to accomplish your goals.Attachment is demanding ,it’s about wanting the other person to bow to our needs.It’s always our way or highway.

Today’s GenZ’s or Zillenials won’t digest this quarrel between Love Vs Attachment as they have more interest in having a social media presence and counting the likes on the their pictures then being genuine and outgoing. So such people would prefer for a play date rather searching for 90’s love.

Probably below points would help to identify unhealthy attachment :

1)You Rely On Their Approval

2)You’ve Lost Your Sense Of Help

3)You Don’t know how to function without them

4)Bond Is Unbalanced

“To be free from suffering,free yourself from attachments”