Years would come and go but the memories stay forever.It’s really a tough situation when things happened way back in life still reciprocate and hampers your current on-going pace and peeps in this journey unknowingly get hurt,but ideally the intention is not to make someone suffer but past gets carried over again and again and no matter how much you try to make yourself understand “Something’s can never be replaced,It leaves a dark spot behind”. Have we ever thought what’s so much in bond between people that it takes years to vanish or sometimes infinite time to get detach from this attachment ?

“Attachment is close bond between two people which endures over time and leads to certain behaviours such as closeness,clinging and distress on separation.”In simple terms children’s develop a bond with there caregivers,which grow into an emotional bond.Life experiences in childhood direct the course of one’s personality as well as the social and emotional development throughout his or her life.For Some,it translates to a “need” they want from others to feel satisfied or happy,and if the feeling isn’t mutual or returned,they feel down or unwanted.Understanding aspects of being attached to someone is important because it influences how far it would go.Sometimes a person becomes attached to another because they are attracted to a person’s mind or spiritual being.You can have a meaningful friendship with someone and value their words,thoughts,and feelings on a variety of things in everyday life.Attachment is selfish.Though you may be seen to be trying to make other person happy,by giving their interests higher priority then yours.You are doing it because you are worried that the attachment will end or break if you put your interest first.Attachment is possessive.You always want to be in contact with person you attached to,because that makes you feel safe.It’s important to know when the attachment becomes unhealthy.They disrupt your way of living with stress and anxiety for different reasons.It gets challenging to shift focus on yourself and realise you need healing.The people close to us often notice behaviour change before we notice ourselves. Perhaps they’re wondering why you’re not spending as much time with them as you used to.It’s quite normal to be emotionally attached to someone specially during this pandemic phenomena.There needs to be a healthy balance in how much time you spend on your own,with the person you are attached to,and with family and freinds,in order to have a healthy emotional life.If we notice that this is impacting freinds/family or work life,it’s important to talk about your feelings,because this is a sign that it’s becoming an unhealthy attachment.

Tips On Managing Your Emotions:

1)Realise it’s normal to feel this way,and you’re not the only one to experience them.Humans have an instinct when it comes to attraction.

2)Practice Meditation.Learn how to create a peaceful and calm place within yourself.

3)Get Physically Productive.Instead of being idle with your emotions,get busy doing what you like to do.

4)Adopt new ways of thinking by reframing your thoughts.Try to move forward when feeling negative or let down by replacing your thoughts with positive and productive ones.

5)Talk about your feelings.It is common for people to keep such feelings to themselves but getting them out is a step in right direction toward managing them.

“Human Attachment Is Injurious To Health”