Being a human being comes with several feelings and experiences that shape who we are, some favourable and beneficial some shattering and distressing, one of the most common is that of love, Love is the single most celebrated human emotion, though nevertheless love can end in heartbreak. A broken heart can be considered a painful empty feeling or the writhing of the soul. The Urban Dictionary defines a broken heart as ‘the feeling of complete devastation, and extreme sadness after a break-up of a relationship or loss of a spouse/relative.’Being Broken is strange and painful.It’s strange because everything,everything has a great beginning.You can pinpoint the point where you let them reach into your chest cavity and take your heart.

When someone breaks your heart, it feels like something inside you isn’t functioning properly, especially if it was your first love. Those feelings you experience with this person are unlike anything you’ve probably ever experienced before, and truth be told, these same exact feelings may never occur again because first love is so incredibly special.The more we think about it we realise that the reason for the breakup doesn’t matter. What matters is the fact that it happened and that you are left with a massive hole in the heart. Heartbreaks don’t only come once in a while, you get heart broken when you have high hopes and dreams about something one minute, and in just the flash of a second you’re let down. And all that you wished for comes crashing down so you have nothing else to look forward to in the morning. The one person who made your life worth living for is gone and leaves you with nothing but memories, no sign of caring, sympathy and just a memory of their face. When you can do nothing but watch them walk away and no matter how much you ask for them to return, they continue walking. When you’re so used to them being a part of your daily life so when they’re gone you feel nothing but emptiness and that you’re incomplete. Like you can’t breathe without them being beside you or having them there with you. How they no longer belong to you & you’re left answering your own questions about what went wrong. How it feels wrong that you’re not on your own and you’re missing a part of your life. Like you’ve let yourself down because the one person you lived for is no longer with you. Like when you care for someone so much it hurts to care anymore than you already do. But when they’re gone the pain just can’t compare to how much it hurt when you had the one person, how it hurts to the point where you don’t know what the point is to live anymore. To get up in the morning and go on with your life but at night it’s hard for you to sleep because you’re so used to having communications with that person before bed. And when you finally fall asleep you don’t wanna wake up because you’ve realized that now your dreams are so much better than reality. Because before you met this person, you dreamed about all that you ever wanted and when you found them, all your dreams came true. And reality was better than your dreams. And now that they’re gone you realized that you’re right back where you started because now your heart is broken, dreams are better than reality. When someone breaks your heart, it feels like something inside you isn’t functioning properly, especially if it was your first love. Those feelings you experience with this person are unlike anything you’ve probably ever experienced before, and truth be told, these same exact feelings may never occur again because first love is so incredibly special. The more we think about it we realise that the reason for the breakup doesn’t matter. What matters is the fact that it happened and that you are left with a massive hole in the heart.

A broken heart, unfortunately, for most of us, is inevitable, and almost always painful. However, if approached with a positive attitude can also become a period of personal growth and maturity. Below are some points which can help us to get through it:

1)Stop Blaming Yourself

Crush that negative impulse as soon as you can. “If you’re always thinking, ‘I was too clingy’ or ‘I was too sensitive,’ question the story you’re telling yourself about the relationship,” says Lauren Howe, a Ph.D. candidate at Stanford who studies responses to rejection

2)Put your feelings down on paper.

Your ex is history—and no amount of sulking or Instagram-stalking will change that. Try writing (yep, writing) about why it all fell apart, what you both did wrong, what you’ll never do again. Do it 30 minutes a day.People who engaged in such positive, cathartic writing felt calmer, more confident, and more empowered than those who wrote about the negatives.

3)Block or Mute your Ex now.

Set limits on how much of your ex you see and how much they can see of you. Its hard but if you gotta get through you need to go through such hardships..

4)Embrace your natural side.

A study found that after a heartbreak or romantic rejection can look a lot like cocaine withdrawal. So give yourself time to clear your head. Spend some time outdoors: Take hikes, go camping, climb a mountain. In a survey, people who spent time in nature reported better emotional well-being.

5)Talk to your friends.

We’ve all seen breakups coming among our own circle of friends, sometimes months before the ax falls. Your pals probably could have predicted yours. “Friends can help you see the broader picture,”. Ask, but only once. Because if it’s all you talk about, you’ll soon be drinking alone.

6)Remember who you were before your breakup.

Before you were part of a couple, you were a functioning human being with your own favorite pastimes, drinks,concerts, and bands. Remember that guy? Be more like him. You did it before, so do it again. Think of activities you didn’t or couldn’t do with your ex.

7)Pause to reflect

You don’t want to dwell on your breakup, but the simple act of thinking about it every once in a while can boost your recovery.Take 10 minutes or so each day to reflect. It’s okay to run through their habits or traits that annoyed you. In fact, recognizing these can help you find a better fit the next time around.

8)After sometime, try to be open to dating again.

There’s no magic formula for how long it should take to get over a breakup; it varies for everyone, and you’ll know as soon as you get there. But when you do feel ready to jump back in the dating pool again, don’t rant about your ex to someone new. There’s no 100 percent solution that works for everybody. But here’s some science in your favor: Seven or eight times out of 10, find­ing a new, meaningful relationship will help you get over a previous one.

9)Don’t try to be friends with your ex right away.

This is perhaps the most important rule of all: in order to get over your ex, you need to maintain emotional distance from them.

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